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In Depth: No Really. Stop.

This is a series on Brené Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection.” For more on that, check out this post. Guidepost 8: Calm and Stillness (letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle) It might have been around this guidepost when I realized that Dr. Brown was personally attacking me. Actually me. This book was written at me,…
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In Depth: Seriously, Stop

This is a series on Brené Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection.” For more on that, check out this post. Guidepost 7: Cultivating Play and Rest (Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self worth) Um, excuse me what now? Let…go…of productivity as self worth? I can tell you right now my first…
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In Depth: Creativity

This article is part of a series on Brenè Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection.” For more on that, see this post. Guidepost 6: Cultivating Creativity (Letting Go of Comparison) Finally, I thought to myself as I approached this chapter, a guidepost I already do and don’t have to worry about. HAHA Oh yeah, I’m a…
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In Depth: Not Knowing

This is a series on Brené Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection.” For more on that, check out this post. Guidepost 5: Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith (Letting Go of the Need for Certainty). I want you to know I feel personally attacked by this chapter. I love knowing things. I love certainty. I feel the…
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In Depth: Cultivating Gratitude And Joy

For an introduction to Dr. Brené Brown’s 10 guideposts, see this post. For more on the topic, see her book “The Gifts of Imperfection.” Guidepost 4: Cultivating gratitude and joy (Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark). Sometimes I find that my work and my personal needs dovetail in creepy ways. This is one…
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In Depth: Resilient Spirit

For an introduction to Dr. Brené Brown’s 10 guideposts, see this post. For more on the topic, see her book “The Gifts of Imperfection.” Guidepost 3: Cultivating a resilient spirit (letting go of numbing and powerlessness). I tried to sit in total silence the other day. I lasted perhaps 0.7 seconds before I had to get…
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In Depth: Self Compassion

For an introduction to Dr. Brené Brown’s 10 guideposts, see this post. For more on the topic, see her book “The Gifts of Imperfection.” Guidepost 2: Cultivating Self-Compassion (letting go of perfectionism). Guidepost 2 is sort of my nemesis. For one thing, I am a born perfectionist with deficient self-compassion skills. For another, it’s hard to…
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In Depth: Authenticity

In her book “The Gifts of Imperfection,” Brené Brown highlights what she calls guideposts: 10 things that the wholehearted people she studied had in common. Wholehearted, to paraphrase Dr. Brown, means living our lives as though we are worthy of love and belonging. It means being brave, seeking vulnerable, connected relationships, and pursuing healthy striving…
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Reasons Not To Go To Therapy

I hear a lot of things about why people don’t want to go to therapy even when they think they might benefit from it. Since I’ve worked in the field for  many years, I have some wisdom to share. Call it an “insider’s view” of the therapist’s office. I figure if I can knock down…
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